Answering The Call: Fatherhood
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Here is a special Fathers Day Newsletter featuring a legendary olympian, glass artist, coach, mentor, and most importantly… father, Dr. Jeff Spencer.
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Cornerman to Olympic athletes, world champions, celebrities and business titans Dr. Jeff Spencer shares a new perspective on parenting and who is really teaching who. It’s easy to see that most children are learning something from their parents…
…but it’s not a one way street. Not by a long shot.
Jeff has been through the rigors of winning Olympic medals, the tedium of becoming a world-renowned glass artist and international sports chiropractor of the year. He’s endured 9 Tour Dr France victories and gotten SOS calls from Tiger Woods, Bono, Richard Branson, Dave Asprey, Chris Voss and many more.
Nothing compares to the life-lessons learned and transformation experienced from adopting his daughter.
In demand, well paid and at the top of his game, Jeff walked away from 90% of his income to answer the call. In this presentation, he shares the most powerful and impactful lessons he learned from adopting his daughter including:
The key to becoming supernatural. How to stand above our natural tendencies of bitching, sniveling and whining.
Leaving space for a Miracle. Why more detailed plans fail to deliver on the promise and the important of holding space for the unknown.
Staying in the game. The strategy for staying in the game while waiting for investments in the future to pay off.
This isn’t just about being a parent.
It’s your wake-up call to tap into supernatural. Father’s thank your children for everything you’ve learned from them. Everyone else, thank your parents for answering the call.
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The Rite of Passage
Everyone has to go through rite of passage that shows up. If life is too good - too easy -there is no reason to change. The difficult things are the things that shape and mold us.
The Gray Wolf1 makes the distinction between the “Earned Path” and the “Entitled Path”. The Master Key to Wisdom makes a distinction between “Pa doe” (the bad path) and “Chung Doe” (the good path).
Andrew Huberman says: “Dopamine without effort will destroy a person”
Walk the earned or the “Chung doe” path, earn your dopamine, however you want to think about it… the first lesson is that the game is going to be hard, and we have to learn how to stay in it because…
If you don’t finish, you can’t win.
Staying In The Game
Our natural, impulsive, human instincts will try knock us out of the game for momentarily relief. It will tell us that we can’t handle what’s in front of us, fill us with uncertainty and trick us into chasing big audacious goals that aren’t aligned with who we are.
Most only need to stay in the game for a year or two to reap the benefits of the investment we’ve made in the future - and they fail because they quit.
Here are some things that will help you stay in the game…
You Can Love Anybody
Jeff’s daughter was ten years old when she was adopted. She didn’t speak any English, they had only three words to communicate … and it was in sign language:
quiet
sleep
hungry
Coming from a third world country where she was abandoned, abused, taught to steal and left to fend for herself on the streets, her psychological state was simple:
“How can I trust anyone?
I’m going to do everything I can to make you not like me.
….And when you turn your back on me I’ll have proof I can’t trust anyone”
She actively made sure that her new parents would NOT be rewarded in the short term for choosing her. What she hadn’t counted on was the lesson Jeff was learning:
Loving someone is a choice, and it’s a one way street.
It’s not something you barter for to get something in return or something you measure to get a fair deal. On the other side of everything we go through, all the hardships, what are we going to say about ourselves?
Are we going to snivel, whine and complain that we didn’t get enough in return or are we going to walk off the field knowing we showed up for the people we love?
Trust The Process
My wife cried every day for 9 years and 10 months
-Jeff Spencer
For nearly ten years, the Spencer’s faced the same uphill battle: make it through the day. And then what? Do it again.
There are times we don’t have visibility or an insurance policy against the future. Jeff and his wife has to trust the process, even though there were no guarantees about when the tide might start to turn.
Sometimes the process is to show up and get through the day.
This is where the ability to stay in receptivity and to adapt to situations in realtime is cultivated and developed. The human mindset will try to quit to get some relief or look for tactics, tricks and shortcuts.
All investments in your future mature at different rates, but the only way to realize the benefits is to trust the process - even if the outcome is hard to see.
Answer The Call
90% of income went away overnight
…I wasn’t going to be held hostage and turn my back on a calling
Jeff was living the dream.
Olympic medal? Check.
Waitlist of potential clients? Check.
Making money? Check.
Happily married? Check.
Traveling the world with celebrities and pro athletes? Check.
There is nothing wrong with living the dream, it’s just not a calling. Often our dreams are of high aspiration and driven by selfish reasons. There is nothing wrong with pursuing them, but many dreams are not aligned with your calling.
A calling is being receptive to an outcome outside of yourself. It’s not driven by immediate self interest, but instead a sense of purpose that you are uniquely suited for.
Sometimes dreams and callings are disguised as goals.
A SMART goal may be SMART, that doesn’t mean it’s the RIGHT goal for you.
A BHAG (big hairy audacious goal) may be a BHAG… that doesn’t mean it’s the RIGHT goal for you.
Instead of chasing goals, learn how to sit in receptivity and listen for the call.
How You Show Up Matters
The most important question we have to answer every single day is …
…How are you going to show up?
You’re exhausted. Feeling sick. Sad. Frustrated. Given up or lost everything you’ve worked for. Scrutinized by friends and family. Hard time putting food on the table.
It doesn’t matter, because you have to walk off the field knowing you gave everything you have to give.
How you choose to show up every single day matters more than any other decision you’re faced with. Deal with your stuff however you need to deal with yourself, but make the decision to show up for others.
Always hold space for a miracle.
We must hold space for a miracle.
We can’t force it or create it, but must leave space for it and have aspirations outside of our reach that keeps us in the game.
We must hold space for a miracle and help others do the same.
Final Thoughts
We often think of loving someone as a two way street. I’m not sure that’s the case. Perhaps loving for the sake of loving is enough.
We often think of the education between parent and child as a one way street. I’m not sure that’s the case. Perhaps the parents job is not to teach the child, but to learn from them.
Regardless, it’s Father’s Day - and Dr. Jeff Spencer has provided an example of how being a father has taught him lessons to enrich his life and the lives of others.
Oh, and his daughter?
She is now a full grown, gem of a human. She’s also a mother, which means that not only did she got to learn from her dad, now she gets to learn from her daughter - just like he did.
We have her coming in July 1st and 2nd to share her lessons.
If you want to listen to the full presentation, listen on YouTube.
More Resources From Dr. Jeff Spencer:
Human Mentalities by Dr. Jeff Spencer. Learn how to become supernatural by overriding the human mindset with the Champions Mind
The Corner with Dr. Jeff Spencer. Updates, articles and videos from Dr. Jeff Spencer
Champions Perfect Day from Dr. Jeff Spencer. Unlock your peak performance and productivity on demand with Jeff’s Champions Perfect Day
Another Spectacular Article Inspired by Dr. Jeff and his Daughter
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So powerful. life is always speaking to us because it wants to speak through us. Heeding the call of fatherhood (and grandfatherhood), is the best decision I ever made.